I had the chance to watch the latest movie starring bigtime local movie stars Judy Ann Santos and Sarah Geronimo with a dear friend (Hi Jes!). Before the movie, we had lunch at one of my alltime favorite places, the Pancake House (the food is good though their service STILL needs improvement after all these years, hehehe). We were both satisfied with our meal (I had my favorite pan chicken combo set! Yum! With a filling taco, spaghetti and iced tea! Jes had pan chicken too! Hehehe. 🙂 So satisfied and expectant, we went to the cinema. Even while waiting in line, we were still debating whether to watch “Hating Kapatid” (we both heard that “Inception” was good) but decided to go ahead with it.
Alas, almost 2 hours later, we came out of the cinema wishing we had gone ahead and changed our minds. Although we are both not BIG fans of Filipino/Tagalog movies, we both expected that this Juday-Sarah teamup would not disappoint (ok ok, I guess you could say our expectations were maybe a bit too high! Blame it on the media hype! Or our falling for it! huhuhu). Needless to say, WE WERE DISAPPOINTED! (We want our money back!!! hahahaha). Sorry to all the Juday (Hi Kaw! Miss you! hehehe) and Sarah fans out there.. but PUH-LEASE naman! What a sad state our Filipino film industry is in, if “Hating Kapatid” is something to go by!
The shameless endorsing, mostly by Sarah, for products such as Belo cosmetics, Extreme Magic Sing, Jollibee, Charmee, Cebuana Lhuiller, Globe Tattoo (these are the ones I can still recall), was, in my own opinion, totally uncalled for. But then again, I think this has been the trend for a lot of other Tagalog movies lately (though I haven’t watched any others yet, and after “Hating Kapatid” I’m sad to say I may not watch one again soon! Sayang, I’m so proud to be Pinoy naman! Kaya please naman, yung mga moviemaker diyan, WAKE UP! Especially Viva Films!!! Hay naku, nakakahiya na noh?!)
Another disappointing part of the movie was the scene where Luis Manzano’s character brought Sarah to a place where he said (and I’m trying to recall the actual words here but am having difficulty) was where he spent some of his spare time – he brought her to a wake, in a seemingly remote place (read: rural), like a barrio or something, basta, somewhere. The family of the deceased was depicted as poor, and Luis’s character was reading a prayer or novena for the dead. Nakakainis kasi parang ginawa pang parang joke joke lang yung part na yun. I mean.. “Hello??!!” “Respect for prayer anyone? Respect for the dead, maybe?!” Grrr.. makes my blood boil talaga… This and the poorly edited scenes (as in, like you really see scenes na parang cut off!) and so many other things (weak plot, etc etc) left me HUGELY DISAPPOINTED.
But as the title of my post goes, a sense of GRATITUDE also came over me as I was watching the movie. Since the plot was about Juday and Sarah growing up with their OFW parents absent for 20 years (STRAIGHT! Without coming home! My gosh! Can parents actually stand being away from their kids for so long without going home kahit paminsan-minsan lang?!) I could relate in a way, since my own parents were OFWs in Brunei for 30 plus years. BUT the difference was (and here is where my GRATITUDE to God comes in), they were blessed to have the opportunity to bring us kids along with them. My siblings and I grew up in Brunei and even if Ate and Kuya had to go back to the Philippines for high school and college (younger bro and I went back for college lang), Papa and Mama made it a point for us to have regular vacations together, either in Brunei, the Philippines or some other ASEAN country (though this happened only when we were younger and fares were cheaper hehehe), at least once a year. I remember how happy I’d be to have my Ate and Kuya with us, and how we’d try to copy the fashion “trends” from the Philippines that they’d bring along with them (does anyone recall the “socks with Berks slippers” trend?! LOL). Being an OFW family left me with many valuable life lessons, and exposed me to different cultures, nationalities and languages, which ultimately contributed to my being a lay missionary. Also, even though we grew up more “comfortable” than others, my parents instilled in us the value of hard work (do your own chores and don’t depend on any househelp!), discipline and service to others, which I consider important life skills that I intend to teach my own kids. They also taught us (and to this very day, still do! Love you Papa and Mama!) that FAMILY should always come FIRST, after God of course.
So in that sense, I am grateful to God for “Hating Kapatid” because it reminded me of the importance of FAMILY. And of how money or material goods can never replace the love and care and presence of parents. I’m not disapproving of our beloved OFWs and am really one with them in their hope for a better future for their kids. All I’m saying is if one IS an OFW and has children, then find ways to reaffirm them of one’s love for them. Save as much money as you can, find ways to make your money work for you (invest, etc) and if possible COME HOME NA. Because your kids are only kids once. It makes me even more committed to work together with hubby for our family’s financial freedom. To pray more, learn more, earn more. Included in my prayers are all of my fellow kababayans everywhere who have left the Philippines for a “brighter future” for their kids. That GOD will unite their families despite the distance. That He will touch the leaders of the Church and Catholic communities (like ours with the Migrant Workers Program) to reach out to OFWs and their families.
“Hating Kapatid”, though truly disappointing, at least left me with a sense of gratitude for the abovementioned reasons. Also, I am grateful for the time spent with Jessie, a sort of one-to-one time with her, after such a long time away on mission. What happened after the movie also left me deeply grateful! Hubby and I ended up visiting a very dear family friend, Bishop Cornelius Sim of Brunei! We had a great time catching up with him and always feel so blessed to count him as our friend! 🙂 At least, spending time with hubby and Bishop made me forget the disappointment “Hating Kapatid” brought about, hehehehe! 🙂 Here’s to FAMILY and FRIENDS, things I’ll always have gratitude in my heart for! 🙂
For other people’s reviews of “Hating Kapatid”, you may want to check out the links below:
http://www.viva.com.ph/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=1722:hating-kapatid-the-movie-reviewed&catid=1:news&Itemid=2 (of course, this may be considered biased! hehehe)
http://elyvalendez.blogspot.com/2010/07/hating-kapatid-movie-review.html (in Tagalog)