In line with our recent rebranding, and our expanded goal to provide encouragement and inspiration even to people who are “non-moms,” we are honored to feature this guest post today by Sha Nacino of Seminar Philippines.
I’m blessed to have come to know Sha, and count her as a friend. I hope and pray that her story — written exclusively for Truly Rich and Blessed readers — will bless and inspire you somehow, especially if you’re still single!
It was a Saturday afternoon. I had just spent the entire day in our office, doing some preparations for our upcoming seminar “Live Inspired: How to Live a Meaningful Life,” happening on January 23, 2016.
I proceeded to Makati Shangrila Hotel lobby to meet a friend. Our meeting was one year in the making as we were both very busy in our respective endeavors.
We were talking about our dreams and plans. Then I asked her, “What is your greatest dream?”
She asked me the same question.
“My greatest dream is to be happily married!” I answered.
Then she asked, “What about your books and your talks?”
I said, “My books and talks will take the backseat. When I get married, my priority would be my family — my husband, our kids. The reason why I am so busy right now is because I want to do all these things while I’m still single and while I have a lot of time. Because when I have my own family, my family will be my priority. Maybe I’ll give talks once in a while. Maybe I will still write (books) once in a while.”
A Bit of a Background
I was an employee for 9 years. In my first year as an employee, I got buried in credit card debts. My experience inspired me to read books, attend seminars, and seek mentors. After 3 years, I was able to zero out my debts.
Today, I’ve written about 9 books. I’ve given talks (and I continue to give talks) to different groups within the Philippines and also outside the Philippines. I’m also teaching people how to write their books thru my 90-Day Book Writing Challenge. So far, that book writing course has already produced many first-time authors.
Today, I run my own start-up company, Write Conversations Publishing and Consultancy, and I am also a partner at Institute for Integrality, Inc.
I am very happy with my life.
My Heart’s Deepest Desire
But I know deep in my heart, I have this longing, this deep desire. I want to be happily married to the man God has been preparing for me. This man is someone who loves Jesus and who leads me even closer to Him, someone I look up to, someone with solid values, someone I can talk to for hours, someone who is emotionally mature, someone I can laugh with, someone who is trustworthy and committed to our #forever.
In Sharon Cuneta’s classic movie Bituing Walang Ningning, she said,
“But the time comes when a person has to choose what is more important — the glitter of success or being with someone you love.”
It’s the same with me. I love writing books. I love giving talks. I love organizing seminars. I Iove the applause.
But I love the thought of being a full-time wife and being a full-time mother more. I love the idea of holding hands with my husband, laughing together, while watching our kids play by the beach.
Surrendering My Love Life to God
Just a few weeks ago, I made a decision to surrender my love life to God. It was a major decision for me. For the longest time, I was afraid to surrender this area of my life to Him because He might ask me to be single for life. He might ask me to let go of my greatest dream, the deepest desire of my heart. Waaah! I was scared!
But then I realized God loves me so much. He wants the best for me. He wants me to be really, really, really happy! The kind of happiness that lasts and that emanates from within.
Whatever God’s will is for me, I’ll be happy and my heart will be at peace. God knows my thoughts and my heart. I trust Him and I trust that He will give me the best version of my dream.
Meanwhile, while I am waiting for the realization of my greatest dream, that is, my dream to be happily married, let me share with you three of the things I will do:
- I will continue to write books, give talks, travel. I will live life to the fullest. In other words, I will glorify Him in everything I do.
- I will continue to work on making Jesus my Number One. Number one in my thoughts, in my heart, in my life. I will anchor my love, joy, and self-worth in God. I want to reach a point wherein I could say with all conviction and belief, “I have Jesus. I have Everything.”
- I will proactively ask God to give me the grace to receive His total, complete, and perfect love for me every minute of every day. All throughout the day, I will thank Him for filling my heart with joy, love, and peace. And a day will come when my heart would be filled with so much love, it overflows.
In God’s perfect time, when my heart and his heart are ready, the most beautiful thing will happen.
I imagine a happily married couple holding hands while walking towards the church to attend Mass every morning.
I imagine two beautiful souls holding each other and looking lovingly at each other while they’re engaged in deep, shallow, intimate conversations.
I hear the laughter and cries and happy shrieks of their gifts from God.
I see a faithful marriage full of love, joy, respect, excitement, and kilig.
I see this happy couple celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary in the presence of their children, grandchildren, families, relatives, and friends… It’s so beautiful I can’t help but thank God as early as now. Thank You, God!
More about Sha:
Sha Nacino is an inspirational speaker and an author of nine books. She aims to communicate Happiness, Inspiration, and Meaning through her books, blogs, and talks. Sha believes that everyone has a story to share. She is passionate about helping aspiring authors make their dream of writing a book come true through her 90-Day Book Writing Challenge (click on the link to know more). You may reach Sha at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her blog at www.seminarphilippines.com.
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