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There’s No Such Thing as an Unplanned Pregnancy

May 19, 2018 by Tina

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This is a really long post, but I hope you’ll read it to the end… not for my sake, but for God’s greater glory. This is especially for my fellow moms who may be having doubts or fears about their current pregnancies, or are even afraid of getting pregnant again. But even if you’re NOT a mom, I hope you’ll read this.

“Do you have any reason to suspect that you’re pregnant?”

These words from the doctor whom I had gone to see because I had been feeling sick for a few days did not seem like any cause for surprise or “alarm.”

“No po,” I laughed.

“Well, your last period was on December 1. Why not?”

“Oh, I have had irregular periods / long cycles ever since po,” I replied.

“Well, you still need to be sure, because you can’t have an x-ray done if you’re pregnant,” the doctor said.

She had asked me to undergo a series of tests because she could not see why I was feeling ill, even after examining me thoroughly. I had been feeling out of breath, even while just lying down, and suffered on and off headaches.

So I obediently went to get a home pregnancy kit (I got two actually!), called my husband to tell him what the doctor had said, and said a prayer of surrender to the Lord. 😉

I used the pregnancy kits the next morning, and both showed up negative! To be perfectly honest with you, I didn’t know what I was feeling. It was a jumble of emotions really. And I’ve learned from my “mommy mentors” (who are totally pro-life, by the way!), that it’s totally OK to have mixed feelings about another pregnancy.

So anyway, later in the day, I happened to glance at the pregnancy kits again and, lo and behold, there were two lines on each of them instead of the original single lines that were there in the morning!

You can imagine my surprise (more like shock actually!) at that time. It was more like this:

Ha, ha! #KeepingItReal here, folks! 🙂

So I turned to Google to see what that could possibly mean, and the results suggested one of the following:

  • The pregnancy tests showed false positive results.
  • The pregnancy tests showed false negative results.

And the best thing to do was to go for lab tests to confirm whether there was a pregnancy or not. Since I was scheduled to go back to the clinic that weekend anyway, my husband and I decided to have a urine test done along with my other scheduled tests.

By the weekend, I was already feeling sicker than before. I had a really swollen throat, and my whole body was aching. I had a urine sample done to rule out a UTI (as previously ordered by my doctor), plus to test for pregnancy.

While waiting for the results, I consulted the doctor who said that I had really swollen tonsils, so he prescribed some antibiotics. Just before paying for his doctor’s fee, I got the urine test results and the pregnancy was CONFIRMED!

To be brutally honest, a small part of me was still hoping that the results were negative. But part of me also felt peaceful when we got the positive results. I felt that the Lord had been preparing me for it.

Allow me to backtrack a bit at this point and explain why.

At last year’s Kerygma Conference, God’s main message to me, especially through Chris Padgett‘s talks, was crystal clear:

“Are you truly pro-life in how you think, act, and speak? When it’s just you, or just you and your husband, do you really honor and cherish life? Are you really willing to say ‘Yes’ to me, like Mary did?”

After the Kerygma Conference, I felt convicted to share God’s message with my husband, and we both knew that we had to apply His message to our life, especially as a married couple. We even went to Confession as a symbol of turning over a “new leaf.” It was perfect timing, too, since the Advent season had already started by then.

We committed to being truly pro-life in how we think, act, and speak, especially as a married couple. And we chose to give God our “yes,” just as Mary did.

“May it be done to me according to your word.” (Luke 1:38)

Fast forward to the time when we found out I was pregnant. Our fourth child was about to turn two, and this was our shortest “gap” between kids to date. And yet, despite initial “fears” of what was to come (and this included possible negative remarks from other people, including family members, about this pregnancy being “unplanned,” “too early,” etc.), I was at peace. I knew that the peace I felt could only come from God.

I believe that it was no coincidence either that the week we found out about my pregnancy was March for Life week in the U.S. Naturally, many of the posts I saw in my social media feeds were all pro-life! Below is one of my favorites (from @itssarahhall on Instagram) —it really popped out at me and I felt as if it was part of God’s message to us.

I also happened to read an article on CatholicMom.com soon afterwards, about The Gospel of Life.

“The Gospel of Life is born afresh every time a family welcomes a new child of God.”

Wow!

Despite these affirmations though, Anthony and I agreed not to let anyone else know about the pregnancy first… we wanted to go for a check-up with my OB first. Before doing so, I told him, “If she says that Baby’s estimated date of delivery (EDD) is September 8, this must really be Mama Mary’s doing!”

Well, guess what she said!

The EDD based on my last menstrual period is September 8, the birthday of Mama Mary!

I know, right? Amazing!

And when we traced the time at which Baby was conceived, it was around the time when we had just finished our journey.

AND… it was around the time when we had just celebrated the Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe!

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Our Lady of Guadalupe, who is well-known as the patroness of the unborn! (And apparently, the patroness of “the nitty-gritty, dirty and thankless, sleep deprived, unacknowledged, invisible, and grace-filled aspects of motherhood,” according to this lovely article.)

It was God’s way of affirming us that this pregnancy—which others might think was “unplanned”—is actually part of His amazing plan for us, through the powerful intercession of Mother Mary.

Actually, call me naive, but I believe all the more now that every pregnancy, even the ones considered “unplanned” by society especially because the mother is not ready, etc., is a part of God’s big plan.

Every baby that is conceived in a woman’s womb is a thought in God’s mind. A thought turned into reality.

The problem is that many of us do not see this, even those among us who call ourselves “pro-life.” Many of us see additional babies as additional “burdens.” We consider having a big family “costly” and difficult, which may be true, of course, but isn’t that how the anti-life movement and culture of death gain a foothold in our society?

To emphasize my point… last month, I shared a disturbing, heartbreaking image of aborted babies on my personal Facebook wall. I was surprised to see people commenting on my post and sharing it. Now, I am glad that people were reminded about the horrors of abortion but have we ever thought about how the “seeds” or thoughts of having an abortion are planted in the minds of women?

It’s when we as a society give them the idea that they are “not ready” to have a baby (or if it’s not their first child, to have *another* baby). It’s when we hint to women that to have a/another child is “burdensome,” “mahirap,” “challenging”, and other words that, yes, may be well-meaning but can cause a woman to doubt even for one second that the baby growing in her womb is a gift and a blessing and a miracle.

When we first found out I was pregnant again, I really did have a mixture of emotions. You know why? One of the reasons was that I feared that there would be people who would also give us “well-meaning” comments.

I know we shouldn’t care about what others say when we know deep down inside that this baby—and all our babies—are blessings from the Lord. In fact, this is actually how I feel now:

BUT I must admit that it still hurt a bit when those “well-meaning” comments came (and still come, actually). Sometimes in the form of a concerned statement. Sometimes in the form of a joke.

“Tama na ‘yan, ha?”

“What? Buntis ka ulit?”

“Ano baaaa?!!”

“Last na ‘yan, ha?”

“You know, there’s an app you can use to make sure you don’t get pregnant.”

“Bakit so soon? Ang liit pa ng youngest niyo!”

And so on. Someone even told me that maybe we should try different forms of artificial birth control. I replied politely but deep inside I was like:

Now, I know that the people who make statements like these are mostly concerned for our growing family. And I am not belittling their concern in any way.

BUT. Again. These statements and others like them can cause women to think twice about the blessing of motherhood. They can cause women who may not be surrounded by supportive family and friends to think, “Ay oo nga. This is too hard. I won’t be able to do this,” and maybe even consider an abortion.

If we are going to call ourselves truly “pro-life,” then we should start being so not just in our actions, which people can see, but in our thoughts and words, too. This is actually why I’m writing this post. I have been meaning to for months but only got around to doing it now.

I must admit that, for a long time, Anthony and I were not 100% pro-life in private, when it was just the two of us, in our words and actions. And we believe that God gave us this baby—through Our Lady of Guadalupe’s intercession—as an affirmation of our choosing to be truly pro-life in ALL aspects. I just hope and pray that more and more people will learn to see the gift of life for what it truly is… that it is a MIRACLE.

Speaking of miracles, here is another story of God’s grace and Our Lady of Guadalupe’s intercession.

You see, just a few days before this post, my OB told me that I could resume normal activity, after more than two months of being on bedrest!

It all started with a small subchorionic hemorrhage (SCH) detected at my first ultrasound, which apparently grew significantly in volume, and I ended up bleeding externally. My husband had to rush me to the hospital, and I was put on bedrest and had to take medication to ensure that we would not lose the baby.

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This has been my most challenging pregnancy so far. I had to have so many tests done, so many ultrasounds, so much medication to take… and it really cost us a lot of money too!

But by God’s grace and Our Lady of Guadalupe’s intercession, plus the prayers of so many people and the amazing support of our family members and friends, we are surviving… and are taking it one day, one prayer at a time.

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And I guess this is the main message of this post:

If you’re facing challenges right now…

If you’re doubting God’s plan for you…

If you’re at your lowest point and desperate for hope…

If you’re struggling with your faith…

If you’re about to give up…

Remember these words of the Angel Gabriel to Mary at the Annunciation:

Nothing will be impossible for God. (Luke 1:37)

And this goes out especially to the mom who may be facing a difficult pregnancy, or may not feel “ready” to be pregnant. You are not alone. God’s got this!

“For I know well the plans I have in mind for you… plans for your welfare and not for woe, so as to give you a future of hope. When you call me, and come and pray to me, I will listen to you. When you look for me, you will find me. Yes, when you seek me with all your heart…” (Jeremiah 29:11-13)

Filed Under: FAMILY MATTERS, Motherhood, Our Faith, Our Relationships, Our Self, PARENTING, REFLECTIONS AND DEVOTIONS, SPECIALLY FOR MOMS, TRUE CONFESSIONS Tagged With: Big Families, Catholic reflections, Parenting Reflections, Pro-Life, unplanned pregnancy

The Easter Triduum: Holy-days, Not Just Holidays

March 29, 2018 by Tina

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Today, Holy Thursday, marks the beginning of the Easter Triduum. We Catholics consider these days the “center” of our Christian faith. The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops actually has a short but sweet video that gives some information about the different days of the Triduum below:

Personally, I love the Easter Triduum and everything that it means. But I didn’t always feel this way. Read the rest on PinayVoices.com. I pray that you and your loved ones will have a truly rich—spiritually and emotionally—and blessed Easter Triduum. Happy Easter in advance!

Filed Under: BEYOND THE FAMILY, FAMILY MATTERS, LITURGICAL LIVING, Our Faith, Our Relationships, REFLECTIONS AND DEVOTIONS Tagged With: Easter, Easter Triduum, Holy Week, Lent, Liturgical Living, Liturgical Living for Filipino Families

What Is True Love?

February 7, 2018 by Tina

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February is popularly known as the “love month” because of Valentine’s Day falling on February 14. It’s the time when many people celebrate love and being loved, so businesses take the opportunity to market their products and services all in the name of “love.”

But really, let’s think about it for a moment: What is love? True love? Is it what the secular world says it is? Is it all about feelings and emotions, and falling head over heels? Or is it something more than that—beyond the fairy tale and telenovela type of love that is portrayed on TV and movies?

As Catholic Christians, we are called to believe that yes, love is indeed so much more. It is not just about feelings and emotions. Let’s take a look at God’s Word to learn what true love really is. One of the more well-known Scripture passages about love can be found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8:

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, [love] is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.

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If we truly love someone—and I don’t mean just our spouses or boyfriends or girlfriends, but anyone whom we claim to love, like our other family members and friends—we must learn to be patient with them. We must show kindness even if it is difficult to do so at times. God even calls us to extend this patience and kindness to strangers, especially those in need.

True love is not jealous, not pompous, not inflated, not rude, does not seek its own interests, is not quick-tempered, does not brood over injury, does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth.

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True love is all about being confident in one’s relationships—there is no room for jealousy when you truly love someone. It’s about being humble and respectful, always looking out for the well-being of the other. When we truly love others, according to Jesus’ teachings, we also don’t bear grudges against them but learn to forgive them. We do not rejoice when our loved ones do bad things or fall into sin; instead we try to help them to do what is right.

True love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

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True love can withstand the test of suffering—we do not just abandon our loved ones when they face trials and difficulties, but stand by them and support them all the way. We endure all challenges together, believing and hoping in the beautiful plan of the Lord for each of us (Jeremiah 29:11). We endure everything that comes our way, because we know that our God—who is the Source of true love—will sustain us and help us.

True love never fails. If there are prophecies, they will be brought to nothing; if tongues, they will cease; if knowledge, it will be brought to nothing.

True love–love that is based on God’s love for us—will never fail. “Prophecies,” “tongues,” and “knowledge” mentioned in 1 Corinthians are actually gifts of the Holy Spirit—but without love, these are useless. Indeed, to answer God’s call to serve others, we must first allow Him to fill us with His love.

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To end, let’s look at the following quotes about love from different saints, and try to live out these quotes—plus 1 Corinthians 13—not just during Febibig, but every day:

“Pure love… knows that only one thing is needed to please God: to do even the smallest things out of great love – love, and always love.” — Divine Mercy in My Soul, St. Faustina

“Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor… Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.” — Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta

“What does love look like? It has the hands to help others. It has the feet to hasten to the poor and needy. It has eyes to see misery and want. It has the ears to hear the sighs and sorrows of men. That is what love looks like.” — St. Augustine of Hippo

“There is no place for selfishness—and no place for fear! Do not be afraid, then, when love makes demands. Do not be afraid when love requires sacrifice.” — Saint John Paul II

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As Ash Wednesday falls on February 14 this year, let’s make the effort to show God how much we truly love Him by observing the Church’s teachings on fasting and abstinence, and keeping the day solemn and holy in observance of the beginning of Lent. If we want to celebrate Valentine’s Day with our loved ones, we can do it earlier. This is one way we can show our true love for the Lord. If you’re looking for more resources that tell us why observing Ash Wednesday / Lent is more important than celebrating Valentine’s Day, go here, here and here.

*This article also appears in the February 11, 2018 issue of the Bulletin.

Filed Under: BEYOND THE FAMILY, FAMILY MATTERS, LITURGICAL LIVING, Our Faith, Our Relationships, REFLECTIONS AND DEVOTIONS Tagged With: Relationships, True Love, Valentine's Day

When Christmas Doesn’t Feel Like Christmas

December 27, 2017 by Tina

It’s 3.20 a.m. here in Manila, and it’s the Third Day of Christmas. I woke up earlier because I felt like I was going to throw up (yes, I felt the urge while I was sleeping; no, I didn’t throw up and no, I’m not pregnant! #justsaying). I couldn’t get back to sleep so I prayed the Divine Mercy Prayer, which is usually prayed at 3 p.m. I wonder what the Holy Family was doing at this time, 2017 years ago. What Mama Mary must have been feeling. Did she have the “Christmas feels” as we like to call our feelings during this time of the year? Feelings of joy, comfort, peace, hope? Or did she have mixed feelings and emotions?

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Reflecting on all this, and knowing that I “should” have the “Christmas feels” but the truth is Christmas doesn’t feel like Christmas too much right now, I take comfort in the “imperfect,” “not Pinterest-worthy” Instagram posts of fellow Catholic moms like , , and .

I know how challenging these busy but beautiful holy-days can be… so I’m sharing this photo of the altar in our bedroom as a “sign” of camaraderie and unity – yes, we still haven’t changed our altar cloth (purple is for Advent – maybe we’ll just keep it on till Lent?! Ha, ha!) and the only reason our nativity set pieces are where they’re supposed to be is because the 8-year-old placed them there.

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As I write this, there is a huge pile of clothes in our living/dining area that need to be packed for an upcoming trip to visit extended family. There are more clothes in laundry baskets and drying on clotheslines to be folded, and more to be washed (praying the weather will cooperate so the laundry will dry faster!).

My husband and I’s hopes of doing some much-needed decluttering and deep cleaning during the holidays won’t be happening because of the previously mentioned trip. Which means the New Year will come and the apartment will still be in the (sorry) state it’s in now.

There is work to be done. (No vacation leave for work-at-home-and-everywhere-else moms like me! Ha, ha!) This blog is in a state of neglect. There are homeschooling-related tasks that need to be done as well. Etcetera, etcetera.

Well, you can probably see what I’m getting at now. I could go on and on “whining” but I won’t. Because, despite everything, there is SO much to be grateful for.

There are thousands, even millions, of people here in the Philippines and around the world who would probably trade places with me in an instant. Typhoon victims. Fire victims. Victims of armed conflict. So many people who are suffering, so many people in pain, so many who have lost their lives even.

Closer to home, I have friends and family members whose Christmases will never be the same because they have lost loved ones or have loved ones who are seriously ill.

All of these make my complaints seem so shallow now. So selfish. I have so much to be thankful for. Many days though, I fail to see them. I am too tired. Too preoccupied. Too focused on the “have nots” and “shoulds” and endless “to-do’s.”

So, yet again, I choose. I choose to be grateful.

Thank You, Jesus, for being the Gift you are to me, to my family, to all of us.

Thank You for the blessings *and* the burdens of this life — reminders that this world is not our Home.

Thank You for being born so that You could die and rise again… just for us.

Thank You for always being there for us… even when Christmas doesn’t feel like Christmas at times.

I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again:

Happy Birthday, Jesus! We love You!

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How’s the Christmas season going for you so far, friend? Whatever you’re feeling now, I pray that God gives you the comfort, joy, peace, and hope that you need! God bless you!

Filed Under: LITURGICAL LIVING, Our Faith, REFLECTIONS AND DEVOTIONS, TRUE CONFESSIONS Tagged With: 12 Days of Christmas, Christmas, Keep Christ in Christmas

A Call to Pray and Inspire Others Amidst “This Present Darkness”

November 8, 2017 by Tina

So much has happened (yet again!) since my birthday post here. Truth be told, while part of me felt guilty for “neglecting” this space, another part of me felt relieved somehow; “liberated” even.

You see, I used to feel “pressured” to blog regularly because I wanted to keep up with the other more popular bloggers out there. I used to be scared of losing followers or readers (the few that I have! Ha!) because they might think that I had abandoned this blog.

But, like I’ve said before, this blog — and everything related to it, like my , , , and YouTube channel (if you can call it that, ha, ha!) — is NOT mine but ultimately GOD’s. And He very recently sent me a reminder about that fact, too:

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When I first opened the e-mail invitation to the Catholic Social Media Awards, I didn’t read it properly and thought that it was from the Catholic Social Media Summit team. I was expecting an e-mail from them because I had been invited to be . (If you’re free on Nov. 18, please do join us! Just click here to register.)

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So I was really surprised that this blog had made it to the list of nominees for the CSMA! Praise God!

I have never claimed to be an inspiring person/blogger/personality but whenever people say that I am, I always say that if there is anything about me or my life or blog or posts that is inspiring, it’s all God’s grace. And it’s all because I — who am imperfect, sinful, weak, broken-without-the-healing-power-of-Christ — do my best to say “yes” daily to God’s call.

And His call now, more than ever, is to PRAY and INSPIRE OTHERS amidst the chaos of this world.

If you have seen the news lately or scrolled through social media feeds, you’ll have an idea about what I mean. Just some examples:

People bashing the Church for making a stand against the culture of death and calling for healing in our country.

Hundreds of thousands of our fellow Filipinos displaced in Marawi.

Conflicts everywhere, including in the Middle East.

People — even children! — getting shot and killed while praying in church.

My heart has been so heavy these past few days. Well, these past few weeks and even months, actually (not all the time but at certain times, definitely!). We live in a world where “this present darkness” (from Ephesians 6) can leave us feeling down, hopeless, and/or afraid.

Yet, we know that God is more powerful than all these. Jesus suffered, died, and rose again, and His victory on the cross is our victory, too. Ephesians 6 again comes to mind as I write this, specifically verses 10-18:

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Finally, draw your strength from the Lord and from his mighty power. Put on the armor of God so that you may be able to stand firm against the tactics of the devil. For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities, with the powers, with the world rulers of this present darkness, with the evil spirits in the heavens. Therefore, put on the armor of God, that you may be able to resist on the evil day and, having done everything, to hold your ground. So stand fast with your loins girded in truth, clothed with righteousness as a breastplate, and your feet shod in readiness for the gospel of peace. In all circumstances, hold faith as a shield, to quench all [the] flaming arrows of the evil one. And take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

Constant Prayer

With all prayer and supplication, pray at every opportunity in the Spirit. To that end, be watchful with all perseverance and supplication for all the holy ones.

Our world may seem full of darkness at times but our God is more powerful than all the “principalities,” “powers”, “world rulers,” and “evil spirits” out there. Believe it. Trust Him. Have faith. Let His light shine on you, in you, and through you.

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Together, let us say “yes” to the call to pray and inspire others to do the same — to live for God’s greater glory, and to draw others to Him. Let us “put on the armor of God” and “pray at every opportunity.”

Caritas Christi urget nos (The love of Christ compels us)! The battle belongs to the Lord!

Filed Under: BEYOND THE FAMILY, Catholic, Our Faith, Our Relationships, REFLECTIONS AND DEVOTIONS Tagged With: Catholic, Catholic Church, Catholic Media, Catholic Social Media Awards, Catholic Social Media Summit, Catholic Teachings, Media Missionaries, New Evangelization, Online Evangelization, Online Missionaries

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Hi! I'm Tina Santiago Rodriguez, a Catholic wife, homeschool mom, and self-professed "media missionary." Welcome to Truly Rich and Blessed, a unique lifestyle blog about appreciating the "riches" that we have — our faith, self, relationships, resources, discoveries and experiences. I hope you'll enjoy your time here, and come away encouraged and inspired somehow!

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